one day, eden

Eden, they told me, was a vision of something I had not the eyes to see. A beauty I was too scarred to behold, a perfection I was too broken to realize.

Eden, they said, was a state of being which envy and strife and fear could not inhabit. A consciousness which invited in the heavenly realms and barred the fiery gates of hell and all its demons.

Eden was a place of peace, of contentment, of faith in an unseen hand of constant provision. Eden was a world where shame was never realized, guilt was never felt, and jealousy never imagined.

Eden was not only a garden of perpetual abundance and fruitfulness, but also a safe haven where the lion could lay with the lamb and man and beast could coexist by quiet waters with no threat of provocation towards violence.

Eden was a perpetual song, so they say. An unbroken melody sustained by a chorus of angels. There was a rhythm which every living being felt deep inside their souls. There was a cadence which held them all together in mysterious harmony.

Eden was the heartbeat of God, and life sprung up from the bosom of the Creator. And he held every living thing there in the chambers of his heart.

But then one day, the chamber of God’s very heart cracked open, splitting in two, and the cadence of Eden faltered into an unpredictable, chaotic rhythm.

Man and beast became enemies. Man and woman grew distrustful of one another. And their faith in the outstretched hand of God wavered.

Shame flooded into the safe haven which was once Eden, and to preserve what was left of the beautiful, the divine, mankind was shut out of Eden.

Eden was beautiful, so they say. I hope to see it one day. Something deep within my soul seems to remember echoes of Eden. Perhaps I was born there – in the chambers of the heart of God, where man and beast dwell together in peace.

Perhaps the cadence of Eden will return to its natural rhythm one day. Maybe then we can return.

Maybe Eden is what our hearts have been searching for all along. And perhaps Heaven is just a homecoming – returning back to the place we were meant for all along.

I’ll be seeing you, Eden. When I’m unbroken once again.

God of the Outcasts: musings of a gay Christian

I wrote this as a journal entry this past October as I was finally putting words to the tension I had been feeling as I tried to reconcile my faith and sexuality. And in the struggle, I experienced the heart of Jesus like never before. I will share more of my story soon. But for now, I hope these revelations encourage you in some way, dear reader.

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I started believing the Bible wasn’t for me because I felt disqualified. I felt disqualified as a reader because I felt disqualified as an ambassador. I felt disqualified as an ambassador because I felt disqualified as a saint. And I felt disqualified as a saint because I was certain that giving voice to my story was the mechanism by which I traded in my title of “redeemed” for the title of “sinner.” 

The condemnation I felt from those who feared my process led to a shame which kept me from believing in my worthiness to read the Greatest Love Letter ever written. Feeling condemned and disqualified made me believe I was unloved, because it seemed I had only been loved conditionally. So I was determined to keep myself apart from those who didn’t love me by keeping my distance from the God in whose name they revoked their love. I went from being on the inner circle and feasting with the righteous to begging for scraps on the margins with all of the other outcasts. But then, when I looked around, I realized Jesus was wandering on the margins too. He was among the outcasts. 

And my deconstructed faith began to be rebuilt, piece by piece, taking on a different form than before. Because once I realized that Jesus was never in the inner circle, the entire construct and conduit through which I had practiced my faith for nearly two decades began to crumble. And in its place arose a raw, unpolished vessel for my faith called Love. 

I had heard of Love before. How it summoned tax collectors out of their criminal lifestyles and compelled them to give back what had been taken, beckoned fishermen to abandon their trade and wander as nomads through new towns, rescued prostitutes from lives of secrecy and shame, inspired friends to carve a hole in someone else’s roof to lower down their sick friend to be healed. I had heard how Love had sustained a man who lost everything he ever cared about, strengthened prisoners who were tortured to near death, and awakened cold and murderous hearts of stone and transformed them into compassionate hearts of flesh. 

But I hadn’t felt love from the pulpit or pews after coming out as gay. I felt fear, loathing, condemnation, pity, and shame. 

Yet there on the margins, hungering for acceptance and worthiness, I found Love in the person of a falsely accused criminal – a radical teacher whose ideas were mocked and ridiculed by religious leaders. I found Love in the person of a King in rags – with the rough hands of a carpenter and the fiery eyes of a revolutionary. I found Love in the weathered face of a Middle-Eastern Jew who remained silent when beaten, falsely accused, and murdered. 

I found comfort in the presence of a man who lived simply and without much fanfare so that I could live wholly. And I knew I could trust him. Because he wasn’t like those on the inside who declared me unworthy. He was a friend of the outcasts and he invited himself to my home for dinner, not to change me, but to show me that Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

And Love is not afraid of being misunderstood. Because Love knows no fear. And Love has nothing to prove. And Love whispers while fear shouts. And Love enters into our story and breaks bread at our table and shows us that we are worthy, even when we feel unseen. Because Love cares less about conforming to systems and more about what is within us. 

Love never speaks death but always Life. Love heals instead of wounding. Love builds bridges instead of walls. Love speaks with authority and humility rather than self-righteousness and pride. Love is gentle, love is kind. Love is patient and does not boast. Love binds up the broken-hearted and encircles the forgotten and whispers, “You are remembered. You are found. You are seen.” 

So now I am learning to lean into Love instead of letting fear keep me from Love. We are safe on the margins. We are seen, we are accepted, we are made to feel welcome. And home is in our midst because Love is here to stay.

lazarus

had to shout to

be heard

because the fear was loud

among a whitewashed crowd

condescending

from their privilege

love it weeps

when humanity sleeps

while its own soul dies

too much self to despise

wake up, lazarus

death don’t die

we might be covered in ashes

but humanity:

rise.

my nomad heart

  

Today I want to be back on the other side of the world. Where cobblestone streets, canals, buses, bicycles, and beauty abound. I long to be back in the heart of Amsterdam, sharing stories over coffee with strangers in a hostel of dreamers and nomads. Backpacks towering over dusty faces of adventurers with worn soles and weathered souls and hearts open like maps to the stars, because they caught a glimpse of something about being human that has them chasing cities like a dog chases cars. 

It’s a dangerous game of risk and desire and never looking back and your heart might get burned along the way, but that’s just the price of being free. Of leaning into mystery. Of being fully known only in moments among strangers over something that is shared and spending the wandering days feeling misunderstood. And maybe we are all hopeless wanderers. 

And maybe a handful of us find home in the eyes of strangers traveling the same weary road more than we find home in a set of digits affixed to the post of a permanent structure on a paved road between fences.

Wanderlust is a light that never goes out. 

fully human, fully free

Comparison, competition, and conformity kill the beauty of individuality and gift of self-worth. We were each designed as unique beings – and when we live into our authentic, true selves, we do humanity a favor by playing our own unique part in the world. The culmination of this authentic individuality creates diversity in community and this diversity is something that we should celebrate, not fear. 

What if instead of measuring our lives against the lives of others we instead sought to live our own best adventure – in whatever unique form that takes?
What if instead of competing for applause or approval or affirmation we instead focused on cultivating a community that empowers one another in their strengths?
What if instead of seeking to conform others to our way of perceiving life, we instead sought to learn from those whose ideas and view of the world might be different than ours?
This journey through life would be a much more beautiful and harmonious place if we celebrated diversity and sought to listen to the experiences of others more. For a moment, try to put aside your preconceived notions regarding race, socio-economic class, sexual orientation, and religion and let conversations and interactions with real people replace stereotypes. Just try it. Even if it is only a short-term experiment for you, maybe it will overflow into something that changes the way you love people and dramatically impacts the way you experience love.
At the end of the day, if rules dictate our life above love, then we are prisoners to ideas. But if love governs our life, then we get to experience the fullness and freedom of meaningful connection and authentic community and we are not slaves to comparison, competition, or conformity. So try it. Have a conversation with someone and listen to hear, not to respond. And if your boxes get shattered in the process, you are that much closer to freedom.

homesick

  

|| Homesick is the room in our mind that hinges our heart to every doorway we’ve ever walked through and called our own. It is the thread that has woven its way from our past to our present and will find its way to our future to remind us, like a gentle pulsing, of all we have ever loved and left behind. ||